So You Want To Be My "Friend"

Young men/customers can be the worst at times!

Many of the younger customers believe they can just sign up to be your "friend" with no rules or respect for your career/livelihood. Rarely do they take into consideration that every time a dancer leaves the club, or even her own home, there will always be that image to uphold. It follows a dancer wherever she goes. No matter how hard she may try to escape or deny it.

Therefore, to have the privilege to be seen with a dancer on her personal time in public(aka the "real" world), there are certain things that a man must realize and give up(aka sacrifice). Any man I am seen with outside the club becomes a representation of my own image. This sacrifice and burden, I even hate at moments, but it is my career/livelihood. The way others see men treat me will become what other men/customers believe to be acceptable behavior and treatment.

Boundaries with vivid lines are the only way one can make real money in this industry.

Just because a man is young does not mean he gets to ignore the effort and time I have put into making a name for myself in this industry. I would rather spend my time alone, then have someone be a public relations and marketing risk!

When a "friend" of mine walks into the club, he instantly becomes a customer. In the same way, as if he sold cars and I walked onto a car lot. I would become a customer. I almost guarantee he would be upset/insulted if I purchased a car from another salesman, instead of him. It would be a blow not only to his ego, heart, and image, but his wallet as well. A perfect comparison!

Double standards do exist in young mens' minds

...They want their cake and they want to eat it too!

~Zi-Fi

"I usually mess up, but I learn. I come back stronger. Everyone changes, becomes better people. We all should get that chance. I just want my chance."

~Tupac Shakur